A young man can decide on a likely spouse on his own and then ask his parents to arrange the marriage negotiations, or the young man’s parents may make the choice of a spouse, giving the child little to say in the selection.

年轻男性可以自行选定一位合适的配偶，然后请求父母安排提亲。或者由年轻男性的父母选择配偶，在选择过程中不给孩子一点发言权。